I sort of interrupt this series to interject my formula for a balancing act. I am by no means a math teacher. I hate math actually. I am a language person. I am usually the one with the great, big discoveries, or the one spewing the philosophical junk. However, sometimes, just sometimes, my daddy proves to me that you can be a mathematician and still be able to spew philosophical junk.
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| My crazy daddy accidentally put on my mom's capri pants. My mom is 5 foot tall, they really don't look right on a 6 foot tall man. |
My daddy is my biggest fan. He has been my go-to guy for ever. My biggest cheerleader. Can I say that about a guy, especially a guy who is my dad? Idk. But I did.
My daddy has always given me very sound and reasonable advice.
Although I have to admit that there were many years that I didn't take said advice. One of the things he told me was about how to create the perfect balance in life. This balance is more about success for life vs just success for being a mother, but I still think it is applicable anyway, as we all want to succeed, whether it is at life or being a mommy. It is success that drives most individuals. It is what we strive for day in and day out. Whether it is success at a presentation for work, a new product we have designed, a blog post that has tons of hits, or teaching our son or daughter to use a fork or go in the "big" potty. Our definitions of success are very different, depending on what we want to be successful at.
So here is my daddy's formula for life-one in which to be successful.
*Note- this has been modified by me. I did not copy my daddy word for word, but took his general "speech" to me and paraphrased it. (Actually my daddy typed up a "plaque" for me once with this information on it to set it somewhere I would read it everyday).
Reason+logic+emotion= success.
You have to determine the proper ratio that fits you. Just like with everything in life, you have to decide what amount fits you. What amount can you eat, how much does you body need you to exercise, how much can you spend on that dress that makes your legs look like the Victoria Secret Model in the catalog?
Now on to the formula explanation:
We all have the ability to reason things out. We all possess a certain amount of logic. We all can be emotional from time to time, even if we don't want to show it. Emotion is the one component that is the hardest to balance. It is difficult to keep from over weighting emotion when making decisions, especially when it comes to our children.
Reason and logic are the major tools for making an emotional decision, but on the other hand, emotion has a major effect on reason and logical decisions. It seems like it is one of those situations that you have half a dozen in one hand and 6 in the other.
The key, but also the most difficult part, is proper balance of all three components. Dang it, another thing to balance on my nose or whatever other appendage I have readily available.
If you don't like the path you are on or you just can't juggle the components or balance a ball so perfectly on your nose, make adjustments to your formula. If you see that you are in a hole, quit digging and climb out. Hopefully there is a ladder so you don't have to haul your behind out of a trench!
Reason and logic are the major components of common sense, while emotion is made up of feelings (guilt- over the fact that you ate that cupcake or didn't get that run in, happiness- that your son said momma or gave you a hug without you asking, anger-that your husband is teaching your son things that you don't want him to know, or is snoring when you have been up with the baby umpteen times that night and just want some sleep).
Before any major decision is made one needs to first think about what you are about to do, why you are about to do it, and what will be the short and long term effect be. Efffff. Who has time for that? I barely have time it seems to take a shower, clean house, and make sure a hot meal is on the table...you actually want me the THINK?!
Yeah, unfortunately. I can no longer use the pregnancy brain excuse. Is there such a thing as mommy brain?
The truth is: You can never ask yourself too many questions.
- Do I need this?
- How do I justify this?
- What are the pros and cons ?
- Was I honest and sincere in my thought process and my answers?
- What will my life be like one year from now if I don't compared to this?
- What effect doesn't this decision have on others?
Like I said here...this is like a diet. When you cheat, who are you cheating?
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